It’s a topic that everyone wonders about, but few are willing to actually discuss: sex during pregnancy. While some people have safety concerns, worrying that it will be dangerous to the baby, others simply feel that it’s too taboo. The body hang-ups experienced by pregnant women may also prevent them from engaging in sex.
Sometimes, sex actually can be dangerous to a woman and her unborn child. However, her doctor will advise her about this. If the doctor feels that there is a risk, he or she may prohibit the patient from having sex or even experiencing orgasm. In the case that there are other complications, such as a history of miscarriages or other difficulties, bleeding, the woman’s water has broken, or either of the couple has an active sexually transmitted infection, a doctor should be consulted prior to sex.
Most women, however, are lucky enough not to have these complications. For these women, sex during pregnancy is very safe and enjoyable. Because of their increased hormones and blood flow to their genitals, some women even experience their first sex-induced orgasms and have multi-orgasmic experiences.
Sometimes, though, pregnant women worry about their appearance. They may feel large, puffy, and bloated, and this might put them off of sex. However, they are often surprised to find that their partners find them more attractive than ever. The combination of that legendary pregnant ‘glow’, swollen breasts, and growing belly are extremely sexy to men. Communication between the couple will help to overcome any barriers and insecurities.
Some other insecurities experienced by pregnant women have to do with the nausea that they experience, the exhaustion that they feel, and uncertainty regarding taboos. Discussing these things will also help. If necessary, a counselor can help mediate these discussions.
If the couple still isn’t sure about having sex, they have other options to fall back on. Massage and cuddling are sure to be appreciated by the pregnant woman, and a relaxing bath will be a sensual experience for both. Kissing and mutual masturbation are also ways to satisfy without going ‘all the way.’
If a couple decides that they are ready to try pregnant sex, they may find that they need to get creative. Even the most basic positions may prove too uncomfortable with a pregnant belly in the way. Missionary, for instance, is probably not going to work, as women feel uncomfortable and men often worry that they’re hurting the baby. Woman on top is a good option, as are positions with the man penetrating the woman from behind. Spooning is popular, and can be extremely enjoyable for the woman, while allowing her to relax and not exert herself too much.
For a couple in love, sex during pregnancy can be both enjoyable and increase intimacy. However, many couples are too worried about a variety of factors to engage in sex. Fortunately, almost every couple can start having great sex once again as long as they consult their doctor, talk openly about their options, and are willing to get creative.