Of all the issues that can come up in a relationship, sex during pregnancy can be one of the most challenging. But if you allow yourself to be guided by your desires, and you enjoy good communication as a couple, openly expressing your likes and dislikes, your hopes and fears, you’ll find that sex at this time can be just as enjoyable, comforting, reassuring, and orgasmic as it is at any other.
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The basic questions women and men ask are: “Can I still have sex?” or “For how long during pregnancy can we have sex?”
Happily, you can continue making love for just as long as you and your partner are happy to enjoy sex – even up to the birth if you wish. By the way, orgasms are good for you all, baby included, who shares your orgasm-induced endorphins and will feel your contentment. Sex can also keep a couple tightly bonded during a woman’s pregnancy, and that helps ensure a peaceful, happy enviroment for the baby when she or he arrives.
There are very few reasons to avoid sex during pregnancy. These are: any signs of bleeding; preterm labor; any sexually transmitted infection; or your doctor telling you not to make love for some reason. (Make sure you find out why!) And even where there are spots of bleeding, which is the most common reason doctors suggest avoiding sex at this time, lovemaking is rarely off the menu for more than a week or two.
The next most common question is about sex positions during pregnancy. A big belly does mean it’s harder to enjoy sex. And that’s what this website is all about.
Well, what sex positions are best for pregnant women and their partners? Are you having trouble knowing what’s best? You just have to be a bit more creative! For example, even if you like the idea of missionary or man on top sex during pregnancy, it simply may not be possible because of the woman’s big belly. (It’s also important to remember that most experts don’t recommend a woman sleeps on her back during pregnancy.)
But the good news is there are loads of alternatives. Try some of these pregnant sex positions:
Woman on top sex positions
This gives you control over the depth of penetration and the speed and rhythm of the sexual dance. Fast or slow, woman on top works really well for the whole of your pregnancy right up to the very end.
Spooning is a well known position, one which works best if the man is behind the woman and entering her between her thighs from behind. This position creates no pressure on his partner’s bump, and gives shallow penetration. Many women like the position because it’s very relaxing for sex during pregnancy – and it will keep you going right to the end of your pregnancy.
Rear entry is of course excellent, because there’s no pressure on the abdomen, although the woman might want to rest her abdomen on the bed. There can sometimes be a bit of a height difference between the man and the woman, but with creative use of pillows or cushions under her belly or his feet, sex is always possible one way or another!
And those sex positions have another advantage - stimulation of the woman’s clitoris by either the man or the woman is really easy. As always, this will increase the chances of having an orgasm.
Ah yes: orgasms. Well, we said it above, and we’ll say it again: orgasms are good for you all, baby included, but they can be different during pregnancy. You might have more, or you might have fewer; they might be stronger, they might be weaker. And some women even become orgasmic for the first time during pregnancy because of increased hormones, or more fluid in the tissue around the clitoris and vagina making them more sexually sensitive. Other women may experience multiple orgasms for the first time.
During orgasm, you may feel minor contractions of the uterus, but this is not preterm labor - unless the cramping sensation or contractions last for longer than an hour, in which case you should see a doctor.
But while your orgasms will bathe you all in a glorious sense of endorphin-induced bliss, towards the end you may find you don’t get full relief of sexual tension when you come - and, believe it or not, you may actually still feel sexually frustrated, even after multiple orgasms. But of course it’s all worth it…..and there are alternatives…..
Masturbation is a great way to release sexual energy if one or both of you doesn’t want full sexual intercourse. It’s a simple way for one partner to satisfy the other. It’s also fun to enjoy mutual masturbation if neither of you want penetration.
What of oral sex? Just enjoy it as normal, seems to be the rule. Even if the vulva is more moist than usual, a quick wash before sex will ensure it’s always a pleasurable experience. Indeed, oral sex can be very good way to pleasure a woman at any time, not just during pregnancy – see www.heart-body-mind.com for more information - but it’s particularly useful for a pregnant couple who have some anxiety around intercourse or who just don’t fancy it.